Expand Your Fempire Podcast #131 Transcript

How Women in Business Can Maximize Their Mojo with Chris Dyer

Welcome to Expand your Fempire with Caterina Rando, the podcast for women in business on a mission. Sharing ideas to support you to grow and thrive. Now here’s your host, Caterina Rando.

[00:00:00] Caterina Rando: Welcome back to another episode of the Expand Your Fempire Podcast. I’m your host, Caterina Rando, and I am blissing to be with you today because we have an amazing guest, Chris Dyer.

[00:00:41] She is a “mojo mentor” for women. If you want more mojo in your life, in your business, in your leadership, we’re gonna talk about that today. Chris, welcome, welcome.

[00:00:58] Chris Dyer: Thank you, Caterina. I’m so honored to be here with you all today.

[00:01:02] Caterina Rando: Chris, I cannot wait to start talking about amplifying our mojo. Before we do that though, I wanna hear how do you go from amazing young gal living your life to thriving entrepreneur as a mojo mentor? What was a little bit about your entrepreneurial journey?

[00:01:23] Chris Dyer: Sure. Early in my twenties, well, let’s, let’s back up. When we decide as children what we wanna be when we grow up, I was either gonna be a teacher or a scientist, and lo and behold, I’ve become a combination of both. You know, a teacher loves to educate and, and share with, with other people, you know, wisdom, knowledge.

[00:01:43] And then the scientist is an individual that is collecting evidence from lots of different life experiences, and then has the reflection and the insight to put ’em all together to understand how it all works. How life truly is just one experiment after another.

[00:01:59] So for me, the typical jobs as a teenager, I entered into healthcare imaging in my twenties, and then from there, I went into sales. And then I went back to clinical education, finished my bachelor’s degree, and then went into leadership all in the healthcare setting.

[00:02:17] I began my entrepreneur journey in 2005, I was a work-at-home mom. I had a successful online business, multiple six figures. But what was interesting is three years in, I realized that I wasn’t taking very good care of myself and I miss going to the gym and I love the energy of group fitness classes and the music and just The energy that lifted the room of being in a group of people together.

[00:02:38] So three years into my entrepreneur journey, I decided to go back to the gym, fell in love with a particular dance style. Fitness class, and that was my gateway into the fitness world.

[00:02:49] Caterina Rando: Which, which one did you fall in love with? Which?

[00:02:51] Chris Dyer: It was Body Jam. It’s a Les Mills Jam program. Yeah. Wow. It’s, yeah, it’s like a hip-hop dance club, you know, because I realized, well, I’m kind of too old to go clubbing.

[00:03:00] So that actually filled that void of that high-energy music, big thumping bass, right? Shaking your booty. All the fun things. And, and I loved that. And pretty soon into it, I started wondering,” Well, What would it look like if I became the instructor? If I put myself up on the stage to invoke that enthusiasm and teach and encourage people to take care of themselves?” You know, do the choreography and all the teaching and everything.

[00:03:23] But prior to that, I had expanded myself in a sales capacity. So I’m kind of jumping around in my life story, so I, I already knew that I had courage. I’ve had courage all my life. Certain things will dampen it a little bit, but it’s like cream. It rises to the top. The courage always comes back out.

[00:03:41] So I got certified in that class. Quickly after that, I became a personal trainer, health coach and just taught fitness classes and, and did personal training with women specifically. And that is what has carried me, sustained me physically, mentally, throughout the last 16 years of my life.

[00:03:59] And I realize that’s the one thing that I’ve done better than anything else in my career, in my life is being able to know how to take care of myself and preserve my energy and my body.

[00:04:11] And that’s part of the big evolution that has come about in the last four years is stepping into that place. Now that I’m on the other side of 40, you know, I’m in my mid-fifties now, there’s women that would love to be able to do and have the energy that I have been able to create within myself.

[00:04:30] So I want all women to feel like that. And my motto is simplification. There’s a lot of distractions. Over complications. A lot of influencers and doctors saying, “Oh, it has to look like this and you have to buy that,” right? And it’s like, “Yeah, no.“

[00:04:44] Our body wants to be healthy when we give it exactly what it needs.

[00:04:47] And so that’s, What has developed into my message and my platform, if you will. You know, very, very strong women in business need to have a success habit for themselves built into place every day so they can sustain.

[00:05:04] And it’s not about perfection. And that’s something else that I remove is the intimidation or what it’s supposed to look like.

[00:05:10] Just really shifting the perspective. It’s not complicated and, and somehow it has become complicated out into the world, you know? And I’m here to shift that perspective.

[00:05:22] Caterina Rando: Wonderful, Chris. Well, that’s great because you know, I always say perfection’s not required or encouraged. I wanna talk about mojo and how to up our mojo.

[00:05:31] Mojo I see as like confidence. We can always use more, right? Mm-hmm. How do you define mojo?

[00:05:39] Chris Dyer: Mojo is that feeling where you just feel unstoppable, right? That you, you trust yourself. Your intuition is on high alert. Yes, it is confidence. It’s, it’s also an effervescence. And it’s also a level of energy that exudes a level of confidence that’s unmistakable.

[00:05:56] Like when you enter in a room and you light up the room and people just know it. They feel it, it. It just runs off of you.

[00:06:03] That is mojo and that’s something that’s earned. It can’t be bought. Right. And that’s part of the success routine that we, we needed to build in as women.

[00:06:17] Caterina Rando: I love that. We can’t buy it, we gotta earn it. Now I wanna talk about how do we earn it? And let me also ask, what are the different components that we have to embrace to amplify our mojo?

[00:06:36] Chris Dyer: Self-discipline, and consistency.

[00:06:39] Caterina Rando: Oh my friend. I hate that word, self-discipline. That term. I like to say, I like to say self- devotion.

[00:06:46] Chris Dyer: You know what? I do like that word. I might have to borrow that. No, no. Truly it. And you know what? I revise my language every day, every time I hear something that resonates on a higher level, I weave that into the philosophy.

[00:06:58] So I, I do like that because I do talk about self-love and I also talk about loving your future self today. Beautiful, beautiful. I, I am very much about self-love, but also compassion. Mm-hmm. Releasing judgment and comparison. All of those are low vibrating energy.

[00:07:13] So when we talk about mojo, it’s, it’s allowing ourselves to clear the runway of energy and emotions that aren’t serving us so that we can operate at the highest frequencies possible.

[00:07:24] Caterina Rando: Chris, let me jump back here because you said, you know, we have to love ourself. We wanna focus on self-love, which I’m, of course, 1000% in alignment with. You made me think though, many years ago I had a crush on this very alluring guy, very Rico Suave. And he said to me, “Caterina, you need to love yourself more.” And I had no idea what was he talking about because I think I’m really good at that. So let me ask you, how do our listeners check in to see what their level of self-love is?

[00:08:07] Chris Dyer: Well, it’s really funny that you asked me that cause I had a conversation this week in a mastermind room and I could tell that I ruffled a lot of feathers and there were some people triggered and activated. Because I was talking about health and wellness and, and how it does affect your success in business. And people want to have successful 6, 7, 8 figure businesses, but they’re treating themselves like they’re going through McDonald’s drive-through, you know what I’m saying? They don’t have…

[00:08:31] Caterina Rando: yes.

[00:08:33] Chris Dyer: …things in place. They’re treating themselves and their bodies like. .. I don’t even wanna use the word, cuz I don’t wanna diminish anybody. And I don’t ever wanna throw people in a place of judgment. But…

[00:08:44] Caterina Rando: they’re not treating their bodies well.

[00:08:46] Chris Dyer: Right. They’re acting like they want a huge, successful business, but they’re not treating themselves like they are the c e o of that million-dollar business. You know what I’m saying?

[00:08:54] Caterina Rando: Right. And you know, I talk about self-care as one of the five pillars. If you don’t have vitality, you can’t thrive in business.

[00:09:01] Chris Dyer: Mm-hmm.

[00:09:02] Caterina Rando: Very important.

[00:09:04] I see two things, Chris. I see what you’re suggesting. That, you know, people say they wanna be super successful, but they haven’t mastered their self-care. And I don’t think, I’ve certainly haven’t mastered my self-care.

[00:09:16] It’s journey, it’s dynamic.

[00:09:19] Chris Dyer: Always.

[00:09:19] Caterina Rando: And you have to keep focused on it. There’s that woman who’s not putting enough attention on self-care. There’s also the woman, and you tell me if you see this, I see the gal. She says she wants a successful business, but all she’s doing is focusing on her self-care. And she’s not focusing on the business-building activities.

[00:09:44] Because for some gals it’s certainly more fun and easy to go the gym, to go to the facial location, as opposed to make some sales calls. Do you see that too? Or is that just me?

[00:10:00] Chris Dyer: I think I see the first more than the latter.

[00:10:04] And, and I have a very important concept that I like to share. A lot of people in the entrepreneur professional development space are familiar with a book called Profit First. Mm-hmm. And it’s very, very similar.

[00:10:16] Caterina Rando: Yeah. I like that book very much.

[00:10:17] Chris Dyer: Exactly. So Mike Kovi, he, he does an amazing job of teaching entrepreneurs as far as accounting principles, how to pay themselves first off the top, and then everything else gets in its bucket so that all the expenses are covered. They’re creating future wealth that’s just compounding over time.

[00:10:35] So my perspective, I’ve been able to immediately, I picked out this, this correlation with if we were to give ourselves 10 to 15% of our working time to ourselves during the day.

[00:10:51] And I know this, this is very interesting because we, we have a similar friend, Laura, and I was listening to one of her summits and, and we were talking about, well, how many hours in a day should we spend on self-care? And, and her answer, and I already knew in my mind, okay, 10 to 15% of your waking hours should be spent on your self-care.

[00:11:07] And it completely complimented everything that she was saying. So I knew that taking something out of a professional personal development book and also hearing it from another trusted mentor’s mouth. It’s like, “Oh, I’m on the right path.”

[00:11:21] And so when we encounter very logic, left-brain minded people, and we can teach them from this accounting principle why it’s important and, and make it relatable to them on their left brain is like, oh, I have their attention. I can say something and relate in their left brain, in their masculine energy.

[00:11:39] Caterina Rando: Well, I think that’s really good because you know, when you say to somebody, put more attention on self-care, that’s an idea. It’s not really a formula or a clear action to take.

[00:11:54] So when you say, look at your time that you’re awake, and take 10 to 15% of that and devote it to your self-care, which might mean exercising, eating right, meal prep, whatever it is. That is a clear formula for moving towards mastery with your self-care.

[00:12:13] I love that, Chris. That’s fabulous. Okay, good. So let’s say that we’re doing good on our self-care. What about self-love?

[00:12:23] What about any other ingredients to master and amplify our mojo?

[00:12:30] Chris Dyer: Self-love also requires doing some reflection, and there’s three “R’s” that I ask all of my clients that helps them clear the runway because there’s still boulders, energetic boulders that they’re carrying around, right? Not all wounds are physical. Some are wounds of the heart, right? But there’s also energies that are lowering our vibration that are still keeping us from living in our true mojo and our true purpose and a lot of clarity comes with doing that introspection reflection work.

[00:13:02] So reflection is looking at the mirror, right? And so when we have conversations with people, something will come up. They will remind us something about ourselves, or they’ll trigger us or activate something that doesn’t feel good.

[00:13:15] And so instead of giving a lot of tension, because I’m the scientist, I’m always the observer, it’s like, “Isn’t that interesting?” So I love to neutralize anything that comes up. Particularly if it’s gonna be on a lower level, like if there’s judgment or anger or any, any kinda shame. Shame is the lowest vibrating energy.

[00:13:33] And anything that evokes shame in me, that’s like, “Whoa, where did that come from?” And I don’t wanna give it a lot of time, but I’ll just kind of move it to the side and then do the reflections. Like, “Where’s that coming from? Oh, that’s coming from something in my past. Oh, I remember when I was a child or a teenager, someone else brought this same emotion up within me.”

[00:13:53] So, resentments, that’s one of the Rs. Removing resentments because where our resentment is, there’s resistance to changing, to be willing to be open, to opening ourselves to new information, new opportunities. And when we have new information, we can make a new better decision.

[00:14:12] So being able to remove the resentments where they’re coming from. Why do you resent somebody? What is it about that situation or that person?

[00:14:19] But also expectations are future resentments. Also being able to not expect too much of other people, right? To just put yourself out there in the best of your integrity. And things will always turn out the way they were intended to, and sometimes 10 times better than we expected. So being able to normalize our expectations of ourselves and other people.

[00:14:42] The second one is rejection. Where in our life have we witnessed rejection? That causes a low vibrating energy. So what I like to invite people to consider, well, because the universe is always working in our favor: rejection actually is a redirection.

[00:15:00] Because the universe didn’t want you to be with that person. The universe didn’t think that situation was right for you. The universe, God, your source, didn’t feel like whatever at the time was a good fit for you.

[00:15:12] And so when you look it’s like, “Oh, thank you. I was actually being redirected from something that maybe wasn’t good for me. I was wasting too much time and energy.”

[00:15:19] And then the third one is regret. You know, regret is… it doesn’t have a place. It’s being able to remove, replace the regret, remove the judgment, remove the comparison.

[00:15:32] And when we can lay all of that energy down and not continue to carry it with us, we don’t need to project it onto anybody else because then we don’t wanna be perpetuating negative energy, right? We wanna be pollinators of positive energy

[00:15:45] Caterina Rando: Chris, that’s a good title. I’m a pollinator of positive energy. Bing, bing, bing.

[00:15:51] Chris Dyer: We’re the queen Bees of positivity.

[00:15:53] Caterina Rando: Queen bees, I love it. It’s beautiful. Yeah. That’s beautiful. I like this, Chris, this is very important for us to put attention on: eliminate the resentment, the rejection, and what was the third one?

[00:16:06] Chris Dyer: Regret.

[00:16:07] Caterina Rando: Regret.

[00:16:08] Beautiful. Well, all of those things are heavy too, and they weigh us down and I would agree that they interfere with our positivity and our mojo.

[00:16:20] Beautiful.

[00:16:21] Okay, so we’ve got some self-love. We are on top of our self-care. We have put attention on getting rid of these three Rs. Any other ingredient to maximize our mojo?

[00:16:38] Chris Dyer: Well, when I simplify the self-care as far as taking care of the body I also have an acronym and it’s “OWNER.” being the owner of your health and wellness. O.W.N.E.R.

[00:16:50]  So the first ingredient is oxygen, right? Nothing exists without it. Nothing organic exists without it. We think about our brains, well, when the heart stops beating the reason why we die is because we’re not pumping oxygen to the brain via the blood. Right? Oxygen also leads into our breath. Our breath is our most important thing. When we’re in a state of panic, overwhelmed, the number one thing that we can do is just pause, take a breath, and breathe. That normalizes our nervous system.

[00:17:18] The second one is water. Bodies require it. We can live weeks without food. We can live days without water. Water is just such an important, vital necessity for the human body.

[00:17:29] And is nutrition. Eat real food. Don’t complicate it. You don’t need a powder pill potion. You know, if you want a supplement, that’s great. 90% of your body can function if you eat real food and, and eat from all the food groups in proportion.

[00:17:43]  “E” Is exercise your options. I don’t like to use the word exercise, so I say exercise your options because essentially what we’re talking about is move your body and everything counts. It doesn’t mean you have to go to the gym. It doesn’t mean you have to go sit on the bike. It does mean you have to move your body. You can go out and garden. You can go for a walk. There’s things that we can do that are free, that don’t cost money, that are open to most anyone.

[00:18:07] And R, it’s rest and recovery. And that is the most underrated thing. Our bodies need to rest. When we talk about recovery, there’s three R’s that we talked about, right? We’re talking about energy and emotions that we’re carrying around. And we need to give ourselves time. To process transition when we’ve had a loss, when we’ve had a major life transition. And as an entrepreneur, we’re usually pushing ourselves. We’re so driven to succeed. We’re not giving ourselves self-love and self-care when we continue to push, push, push, push. When your body is giving you signs and signals like, “You know what, I really need you to slow down and listen to me.” and that’s learning to trust and listen to your body.

[00:18:44] So I’m all about Listening to the signals because we’re not intended to be in pain and the body, again, wants to be healthy and pain-free when we give it what it needs. That’s being the owner of your health and wellness.

[00:18:56] Caterina Rando: All right, my friend. Oxygen, water, nourishment, exercise your options, rest, and recovery. Wonderful. Any final words to maximize our mojo?

[00:19:12] Chris Dyer: Every day, implement the Profit First Rule in your time. Time is our number one asset, without exception. And that’s also learning how to create boundaries for yourself and not compromising yourself. Because we all have goals and dreams and obviously in our beautiful blossoming business, we also want to have the capacity to maintain that until we cross the finish line. We’re all gonna cross the finish line. But how do we wanna do it? Do we wanna be running, and sprinting or are we panting and crawling just to get by?

[00:19:46] No, that’s survival. We wanna thrive and be vivacious and have vitality. That is where mojo is, is is truly in the self-care, and that’s where your best ideas come from.

[00:19:57] Caterina Rando: Absolutely. I was thinking about that this morning because my mom is 90, my dad is 91, and I figure I’ve got a lot of years ahead of me and I wanna be, as you’re saying, Chris, with full mojo in those late years.

[00:20:13] Chris, I know some gals are gonna wanna connect with you to get more mojo, to get their mojo back. How can our listeners connect with you?

[00:20:24] Chris Dyer: Yes, so I do have a lead in opt-in. It is seven secrets for success.com, all spelled out S E V E N F O R. And that will allow you to be on my email newsletter. You will get updates. The “your money is in your mojo” is a perpetual program that I do offer in a group setting. I also offer one-to-one laser-focused coaching. My ideal clients are heart-centered, impact-driven women, and we talked about lifestyle, which is the mojo, right? Creating that legacy, creating something bigger than ourselves that we get to leave behind.

[00:21:03] Bing, bing, bing, bing, bing, bing.

[00:21:04] Caterina Rando: Chris, thank you so much for being with us today on the Expand Your Fempire Podcast. Listener, I know you’ve gotten some great ideas. Pick one. Pick two. Get going to amplify your bliss and your business, to maximize your mojo so you can sell more, serve more, and most importantly, up uplift more lives with your amazing self.

[00:21:30] This is Caterina Rando, again, encouraging you to listen to other episodes. We’ve got way over a hundred. We’ve got great interviews. Go to CaterinaRando.com to come and join me for my next upcoming workshop or event. Thanks, Chris. Thanks, listener. Be with you again next time.

[00:21:53] Bing. Bing, bing.

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